Who Are You? 

December 6, 2018
By Lim Sahar Lathem

When I was asked to write this piece, I got really nervous. I would have to tell you who I am. I would have to put myself out there. Take a step toward my purpose. A scary thought.

I’m 33 years old, and I’m still figuring it out. Who am I?
I have four kids, therefore I’m a mom.
I keep my kids alive, therefore I’m a good mom.
My husband is a pastor, therefore I’m a pastor’s wife.
I do art, therefore I’m an artist.
People pay me to take their pictures, therefore I’m a photographer.

Sure, I am all of those things and more, but that is not “who I am.” It is not what defines me as a person. I see a lot of people going through life like zombies. Day in and day out. Going to work, doing the same routine, hanging out with their friends, keeping up, getting the latest everything, and yet, if you were to ask them who they think they are, the answer would be shallow: “I am . . . what I do/what I have.”

The further away I am from God’s will for my life, the more lost I get in trying to find who I am.

You see, we all have a purpose. I think for us to find ourselves, we need to find our purpose, but that’s a lot harder than it sounds. It is a daily battle you must win within yourself—between who you think you are and who you’re supposed to be.

The more labels are given to us by society, by the church, by religion, and even our own families, the harder it becomes. Your vision might get blurred out by all the obstruction! Imagine trying to see a star in the middle of Times Square. It would be nearly impossible! In the same way, it is almost impossible to follow your path while getting bombarded by labels.

But listen to what Isaiah 43:4 says:

Because you are precious in my eyes,
And honored, and I love you,
I give men in return for you
Peoples in exchange for your life.

I mean, seriously. Look at these words God uses to describe each of us!

Worthy of ransom.

That essentially negates every other label you’ve been given. This is who you are.
You are precious in God’s eyes. Your sins don’t define you.
You are honored in God’s eyes. Your past doesn’t define you.
You are loved. Your circumstances don’t define you.
You are worthy. God has already defined you.

You are not what you do.
You are not what your spouse does.
You are not your past.
You are not what you have.
You are not a label.

So if you’re feeling lost and can’t seem to find yourself, focus on what God has called you already. From your mother’s womb, He named you, and you are precious in His eyes. And that is all that really matters.